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I’ll never forget getting off the intro call with a psychologist in 2013 before heading in for my first appointment later that week. I had to duck into a closet to take that very personal call while at work, which at the time, was at a coworkers apartment because the start up I worked for couldn’t yet afford an office.

I had been struggling for some time, but I hadn’t realized it. And once I did realize there was an issue, I didn’t even know there was a name for it.

Social anxiety.

It stems from the persistent and irrational fear of being judged and being seen in a negative light by others, which ultimately leads to avoidance of normal life activities like works, school, and any social gathering.

I experienced it through constant negative thoughts about approaching social events. I experienced it through heat and getting so hot and sweaty, it felt like I had no control over my body. I experienced it through awkwardly excusing myself mid conversation, panicking if I had to speak up at work, and fearing things like meeting new people and even hair cuts.

When the psychologist put a name to it and validated my experience, a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

My year in therapy helped me tremendously. I learned that anxiety never goes away, but we can learn to manage it.

It puts a huge smile on my face to know that 2020 Jera now, despite fear and anxiety, is doing things (like meeting lots of people, keynote speeches, and teaching classes) that 2013 Jera never would have dreamed of.

I wrote a really extensive blog post on my experience with social anxiety with some actionable techniques that you can put into practice right now to help. You’re not alone💚

Link in bio or go to bit.ly/jerasocialanxietyblog
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📸 @aaroncookcoffee
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#socialanxiety #socialanxietyproblems #socialanxietyawareness #anxiety #anxietyawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthmatters💚 #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthjourney #taketimeforyou #taketimeforyourself #begoodtoyou #happymind #bethebestversionofyou #healthylifehappylife #healthylivinginsideandout #healthyinsideandout #healthylivingjourney #healthymindbodysoul #happyhealthylife

I SEE YOU. I ACKNOWLEDGE YOU. I CHEER YOU ON 👀👊🏼...
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YOU, who set a resolution to start working out.

YOU, who is terrified to go to a group fitness class alone but is going to one anyway.

YOU, who once used to be super super fit, but now feels like a beginner again.

YOU, who has feared going to the gym for so long because it feels like everyone is watching and judging you, but you finally signed up.

YOU, who is committed to sweating, even if that means only fitting in a quick 10 min workout.

YOU, who’s offbeat, or can’t keep the rhythm, or constantly looking around because you’re unsure what the heck is going on, but continue to show up despite that.

YOU, who is a fitness instructor and super strong at one thing, but branching out into other types of movements.

YOU, who’s wearing just a sports bra for the very first time.

YOU, who had a baby and is working out for the first time after giving birth.

YOU, who is trying to learn how to exercise from a place of love and not from hate.

I SEE YOU. I ACKNOWLEDGE YOU. I CHEER YOU ON!!!! You never know someone’s past. You never know what it took for someone to walk through the gym or studio doors. You never know what’s going through someone head as they press the “on” button on the treadmill, clip into a bike, or press into a downward dog.

Let’s support each other ❤️
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#youhavethepower #goafterit #bedetermined #setgoalsnotlimits #positivitybreedspositivity #growthroughwhatyougothrough #notimefornegativity #findhappiness #feelgoodvibes #thinkhappythoughts #youarepowerful #livewithintention #positivelifestyle #positivemindpositivelife #empoweredwomenempowerwomen #womenunite #sheconquers #sisterhood #lifestyleinspiration #newyorkgram #newyorkers #newyorkerfashion #nyclove #thisisnewyorkcity #nycliving #newyorkliving

❌ I GUESS I’VE GOTTEN IT ALL WRONG ❌ For a long time now, when I’ve talked about creating content and taking photos in public, something I’ve said over and over is not to worry about what other people think because they either probably won’t really notice you because they’re so wrapped up in they’re own day and what they’re doing... OR if they do notice and look, they’re probably just curious!

But I’ve recently realized that unfortunately, that may not always be the case.

Aaron and I were shooting some content while at the Opera House in Sydney, and an hour later, I got a DM from a gal that follows me. She sent me a screenshot from someone’s story who does not follow me, asking if it was me in the pic. Indeed it was! Swipe to see it.

While I understand she probably was “just joking”, I’ll admit, it sorta hurt my feelings. And it also made me feel badly as I realized why this is exactly while so many people feel nervous to take photos in public: judgement from others.

This really was a great lesson though, and I wanted to share my take aways with you.

1️⃣ Not everyone will understand you and what you do, and that’s ok. You don’t need 100% of the population to support you in order to crush your goals.

2️⃣ It’s a great sign when you have critics. You want to be polarizing in this world. If you’re pleasing everyone, that’s no good.

3️⃣ Putting someone else down won’t ever lift you up. Nothing good comes of it.

4️⃣ It’s super likely that you’re going to piss off other people and stir up their emotions when you start owning your own life and your own goals. And that’s ok! Stay in your own lane and let them figure out theirs.

5️⃣ Stop getting distracted by things that have nothing to do with you goals, aka the opinions of strangers.

It’s hard putting yourself out there, but we gotta get uncomfortable in order to go for what we want!

Let me know which lesson (1️⃣ 2️⃣ 3️⃣ 4️⃣ or 5️⃣) you’re going to put in action starting TODAY!
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📸 @aaroncookcoffee
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#sydney #sydneyoperahouse #operahouse #operahousesydney #operahousesydney🇳🇿 #sydneyaustralia #sydneyaustralia🇦🇺 #sydneyblogger #empoweredwomenempowerwomen #bossbabetribe #girlbossmagic #fempreneurs #sidehustlers

SYDNEY 🌼🌊 you’ve been a dream! A lil bit beachy, a lil bit city, a whole lotta fun. Cannot believe this was the last stop on our Australian tour- not ready for it to end! Our time here was short, but here’s what we did:

STAYED:
Air BnB in Bondi Beach

COFFEE/FOOD:
@porchandparlour
@paridabondi
@gertrudeandalice
@theninesydney
@preach_cafe
@northbondifish
@billsaustralia

DID:
Ferry ride around the harbor
Opera House
Iceberg Pools (pictured here!)
Walk from Bondi Beach to Bronte Beach

And now... the 30+ hour journey home! I’m comin for ya, @spicygrandpa!
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📸 @aaroncookecoffee
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#sydney #sydneyblogger #bondibeach #bondi #icebergpools #instapassport #australia #australiablogger #bondiicebergs #bondiicebergspool #igersbondi #sydneyigers #icebergpools #bondibeachsydney #bondibeachaustralia #sydneybloggers #traveltheworld #travelgram #roamtheworld #wandermore #beautifulpool #lifestyleblogger #lifestylebloggers #travel_captures

LET’S PLAY A GAME! Each house represents an INTENTION you wish to BRING into 2020. Choose ONE that resonates with you the most and tell me below!

HOUSE 1 (red and white stripes)
Intention: Do no harm but take no shit

HOUSE 2 (Australian flag)
Intention: Where the focus goes, the energy flows

HOUSE 3 (multi colored)
Intention: Do what makes your soul happy

HOUSE 4 (blue and yellow stripes)
Intention: Strive for progress, not perfection

HOUSE 5 (pink and white stripes)
Intention: I am worthy

HOUSE 6 (blue wave)
Intention: Feel the fear and do it anyway

HOUSE 7 (blue and green stripes)
Intention: No one is you, and that is your super power!

Which one are ya kicking off the new year with?!
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📸 @aaroncookcoffee
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#brightonbathingboxes #brightonbeachmelbourne #brightonbeach #melbourne #melbourneblogger #melbs #melbourneigers #igersmelbourne #instapassport #traveling #travelgram #roamtheworld #australiablogger #australiagram #justtravel #travelmoments #meettheworld #openmyworld #awesometravel #melbournelifestyle #wandermore #travelisfun #lifestyleblogger #lifestylebloggers #travelcapture #instapassport

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